Getting your relatives to take DNA tests can boost your knowledge about your genetic connections—and can get family members more interested in their roots. Here are 5 important tips for DNA testing your relatives.
Did you SEE those holiday price wars at the DNA testing companies during the holidays? I’m guessing we haven’t seen the end of these, now that it’s becoming so trendy, AND genealogists are seeing the research payoffs of testing, AND now that another major genealogy website is offering testing services.
As DNA sale prices generally become more attractive, more of you will want to expand your personal genetic database to include aunts and uncles and cousins. But what is the best way to proceed? How exactly do you ask someone for his or her DNA? And if you do, you may just have one shot at this. If so, which test? Which company?
5 Tips for DNA Testing Your Relatives
1. Share your own testimonial
Nothing speaks louder than your own experience. Start with a short summary of your own DNA journey. Keep in mind what might interest them: do they like deep history? Share the ethnicity results. Did they have a special connection to Great Grandpa Joe? Show how your DNA has connected to your 2nd cousin, also a descendant of Joe. Bust out the photo album and remind them that while Joe is gone, there are these threads of DNA that can still speak for him, and we need as many of his descendants as possible to be tested in order to preserve his genetic legacy, and unravel the mystery of his past.
2. Address any concerns and share the risks
Be up-front about the risks of taking DNA tests, including the possibility of unexpected results. Address concerns about privacy and law enforcement. Don’t wave these concerns away: share your own feelings about them and what has caused you to choose to test anyway. Getting their informed consent means that when they say “yes,” they know what they’re saying yes to.
3. Test the oldest generation first
You likely have a limited amount of funds with which to populate your family genetic database, so use them wisely. Anyone who does not have both parents living should be tested first. Order an autosomal DNA for everyone, and one Y DNA test for a genetic male delegate of each surname you want represented. For example, your dad’s brother Bill to represent the Johnson line, your mom’s cousin Robert to capture her maiden name, and so on until you have several surnames of interest represented.
Read a case study: how testing her grandma gave her SO much more information than her own test
4. Choose carefully what test to take–and where
Which testing company should you choose? For the autosomal DNA you have several choices. While there are several factors to consider, the size of the testing pool at a company is often the number one priority–the more people who have tested, the more likely you are to find matches. Currently AncestryDNA has the largest database. After testing at Ancestry, you can transfer to two other companies for a lower cost without having to retest (and you can’t transfer in to Ancestry–you have to test there to begin with). And Ancestry has excellent DNA analysis tools and genealogy research tools, too. All that said, you may have other priorities. Read our article comparing the best DNA tests for family history.
Find which DNA test is best for YOU
3. Take care of everything—or not.
When DNA testing your relatives, you can handle everything from ordering to payment to correspondence so all they have to do is spit or swab. This is the preferred method for those who don’t want to be bothered with the details. Just be sure to follow the testing company’s instructions for maintaining your relative’s ownership over their personal DNA. If they do want to be involved, all the better! Encourage them to explore their personal DNA results and discuss them with you.
If you haven’t tested with a particular company yourself, familiarize yourself with the sample collection so you can be helpful when they have questions. (Click to read about sample collection methods for Family Tree DNA, AncestryDNA, 23andMe and MyHeritage.)
What comes after DNA testing your relatives?
Taking a DNA test (or having a relative take a DNA test) is just the beginning of your genetic genealogy discoveries. Grab our free guide about getting started with DNA and learn what you can do to start learning more about your family!
Yes please! I’d like that guide.
An older version of this article was originally shared in 2016 on genealogygems.com.
